05.28.08
Posted in Blog at 3:25 am by Shirley Nah
Fact: Asian women are highly sexualized (a mixed blessing) and generally are very much aware of their powers of attraction
Problem: Asian men are not nearly as sexualized and are often emasculated. This makes dating, which is an already daunting task, even more difficult for Asian men who may become overwhelmed and hindered by this gender discrepancy.
Solution: have confidence! HAVE CONFIDENCE!!! Moreover, I recommend that you should have confidence. Did I mention that having confidence is a great solution to this problem??
What do I mean by confidence? Do I mean cocky and pretentious? NO! Most people are intelligent enough to find cockiness not only obnoxious but also a sign of weakness as well as a major turn off. The confidence that I speak of is a very fine line that will take your own experience to master. You should feel comfortable with the person you are and be willing to take risks. Go ahead and approach that “someone” at the party.
You almost always have nothing to lose because relationships and dating extend far beyond the first encounter, and attention paid to you within the first five minutes may not guarantee success within the ensuing half hour. Thus, you should definitely go on ahead to approach and engage the person you are attracted to.
Why do I personally think that confidence is the key to attraction? For me, as a girl, it signals several things:
Firstly, that you know who you are. You are a strong individual who can hold your own, is willing to take risks, and truly believes in themselves.
Secondly, that because you know who you are, you know what you like. Thus, I conclude that the time spent flirting with me means that I am someone that you know for sure you are attracted to. This attention is almost always more welcome than that of a boy’s whose confidence is wavering and seems to be what my friends call a “percentage man”: a guy so desperate for reciprocation of attention that he hits on and talks to EVERYONE hoping that out of his survey population, a small percentage will acknowledge him back.
Thirdly, when you talk to me, I will see that you are not nervous and you are able to hold your own in conversations, so I will then put you in the same league as me. It is about 100000x easier for a girl to look hot and attractive than it is for a boy. Men are limited in their hairstyles, clothing choices, and there exists only one archetype of the tall and handsome male. For women on the other hand, we can look good either short or tall as well as skinny or curvy. We also have more fashion choices that can flatter our bodies, we can wear different hair styles to frame our faces, and we are allowed make up—basically paint—to hide our blemishes and to make us look glamorous. My point is that just because you are looking at a hot girl does not mean you are looking at something out of your league. My hottest friends never get boys because it seems their great looks intimidate and weed out most insecure men. HAVE CONFIDENCE!
Not everything is as daunting as it seems, and your confidence will pay off not only in playing the dating game but also in work and social settings as well. Be confident! I obviously believe in you enough to have written such a long plea for you to be confident; it’s about time that you should start believing in yourself as well and do so!
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05.27.08
Posted in Media and Entertainment at 4:24 pm by william_lee_intern
WHAT: Q & A
WHO: By Juliana Hu Pegues. Directed by David Mura.
When: 2 p.m. today and next Sunday,
8 p.m Thursdays through Saturdays.
Ends June 8.
Where: Mixed Blood Theatre, 1501 S. 4th St., Mpls.
Tickets: $16-$18. 612-338-6131
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Juliana Hu Pegues has been conducting “Q & A” for Asian-Americans and it will be directed ny David Mura with guests like:
There is 9066 (Katie Leo), a scholar who is seeking someone with whom she can talk about things like hetero-normative paternalism. And, as played by Leo, she is archly de-sexed. There is 1/2 (Laurine Price), the half-Asian, half-Lebanese gardener who likes reggae and wants to get along with everyone. And…
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Posted in Uncategorized at 4:23 pm by william_lee_intern
Bangladeshis has the largest Asian-born American, according to the survey the 5,600 Bangladeshi lives in Bronx and it went up at 1,600 in year 2000.
One man said that, the reason Bangladesh people are living in Bronx is that they are comfortable with the place, because rents are cheaper, hospitals are nearer as well as condominiums are a better place to stay.
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Posted in History at 12:22 pm by william_lee_intern
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Ken Ugaki, a Japanese-American kept in mind his experiences during Pearl Harbor. He talked about his loss of freedom during that time, but that didn’t hinder him from combating freedom for other people.
A part of his interview was: “do you consider yourself an American?”
“yes.”
“A proud American?”
“A PROUD AMERICAN!”
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Posted in World News at 12:20 pm by william_lee_intern
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Yao Ming is very worried and sad about what happened to the people in Sichuan, China when the earthquake occurred.
He wakes up every morning going straight away to his computer to check on updates for about the tragedy. He was at the press conference in promotion with Coca-Cola when he told that story. He already has given $290,000 and had made a commercial announcement urging the people to lend a hand to those victims in the China earthquake.
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Posted in Media and Entertainment at 12:15 pm by william_lee_intern
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David Henry Hwang and Bartlett Sher will make Bruce lee alive again in the form of a musical in the Broadway.
The musical production will be entitled “Bruce lee: Journey to the West”. The musical will be about Chinese culture and Chinese pop, and the plot will intertwine Bruce Lee’s rise to fame. It will be directed by Bartlett Sher and the book will be written by David Henry Hwang.
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Posted in Blog at 12:02 am by Shirley Nah
There is no argument that Asian Americans and Asian (immigrants) are separate groups of people; indeed, both groups face different daily struggles in their attempts to exist/coexist with American (mainstream) culture. A question I now pose is this: Do you think that being born in America or being born in Asia impacts one’s future choices in the company they keep and the people they seek out to date?
I ask this question because I think it does—there exists a correlation between where one is raised and the company they choose to keep. More specifically I am referring to the phenomenon of Asians seeking out the company of other Asians, or the deliberate choice not to.
What my Asian friends and I have noticed, and our conclusions might be isolated to our circumstance, is that Asian Americans may have many non-Asian friends but will ultimately seek out the company of other Asians. Moreover, they see themselves attracted to and dating Asians. On the flip side are the Asian immigrants who seem more willing to date outside of the Asian “circle” and tend to be more attracted to non Asians. (Knowing that interracial dating is an extremely complicated topic, I was hesitant to make the previous statement; however, it is something that I have noticed.)
I first became aware of this difference as early as junior high when my friend who had recently come from
China told me that all she wanted to do was befriend and date non Asians. She even expressed her love for my company my telling me that I was the only Asian girl she really saw as a friend.
Since then I have made many other friends, mostly girls, who have similar stories. I have heard, “I have never ever been attracted to an Asian male” as well as “I think Asian men are the least attractive.” These statements have always come at a great surprise to me because I am most attracted to Asians.
When I was younger, I barely had any Asian friends except for the ones that were in my parents’ friends circle; yet I had a crush on all the Asian boys. Then in middle school and high school I hung out with almost all Asians and continued to date only Asian boys. Now in college, all my friends are almost all non Asian; nevertheless, I am still mostly attracted to Asian males.
And I know for fact that my story is not unique. Many other Asian Americans also find this to be true. So does this difference in dating preferences really exist between ABC’s and FOB’s? If it it does (like I think it does), then why does this happen?
There are thousands of reasons as to why ranging from the novelty of a different race to perhaps personal preference and social settings. However, I bring this question up because I do believe that this does play into our decisions in dating. Think about and talk it over with some friends; if you agree with me you might find people who might prove me wrong. If you disagree, you might find people who would prove me right.
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05.23.08
Posted in Business at 5:48 pm by william_lee_intern
Verizon Wireless is proud to inform that they employed 69,000 people for their company including Asian-Americans.
That is the purpose of celebrating Asian Pacific Heritage Month to honor the hard work of Asian- Americans.
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Posted in Racism at 5:32 pm by william_lee_intern
Asian-American gay and lesbians are begging for acceptance from their local and tradition church. “It’s important to recognize that there are Asian-American churches that are affirming of queer people,” Tai said.
Those who are open-minded, stereotype Asian-Americans that are closed to this issue are just denying themselves and, yet they are not true.
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