05.31.08
Posted in Blog at 1:41 am by Shirley Nah
Succeeding in your own endeavors is easy because you are in control of your own expectations. Succeeding in relationships is of course much harder.
Daily, women are redefining their roles in society. Thanks to progressive thinking, women are excelling in academics as well as in the work field. We are looking younger longer as well as living healthier lifestyles. Many of us were raised to study diligently and do well; thus, we carried over these principles into our workplace and adopted them into our lifestyles.
Dilemma: In the dating realm, for Asian women success in the workplace is not usually an attractive factor. More so than any other races, Asian men tend to feel that they need to be the breadwinners in the family. For example, in Korean and Japanese cultures, a staggering majority of women end up becoming housewives because they personally choose to adopt that as their role in the family. Though I have nothing against this decision, it tends to lead to an outdated expectation (that some hold) for other Asian women to do the same.
Moreover, the parents that were cheering for us to do well in school in our younger years are now more concerned with us being able to find a boyfriend and a husband. They are even fearful that our success might hinder our ability to find a date. In my opinion, it is frustrating to realize that qualities that were once praised are now belittled because of the pressure to find a guy.
What I have come to find is that both Asian men and women hold this belief that men must be more successful than women. Asian men tend to only date girls they feel they can take care of, and Asian women are attracted to men who will offer them security.
However, Asian women are rising in academics as well as in the work place. Thus the a terrible dilemma arises. Career women will find it harder and harder to find a guy that will fulfill her breadwinner requirement. After achieving their own success, they will have high expectations. What is the smart, career driven girl to do then? Her dating pool becomes extremely limited doesn’t it?
In my opinion, there isn’t much that can really be done. We all witness this phenomenon daily and many Asian women are living with this ’struggle.’ It would be expecting a lot to ask Asian men to swallow their pride or for Asian women to ’settle for less.’ Of course, I am not saying that long term relationships of conventional gender role reversal don’t happen; on the contrary, it actually happens a lot. However, for the growing number of educated women graduating from colleges every year and entering the workforce in high paying jobs, there may not be enough of these kinds of compromises to satisfy every career girl’s dream.
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05.30.08
Posted in Sports at 6:53 pm by william_lee_intern
Liu Xiang, a Chinese track star which is also Yao Mings’ friend said that Yao will make it to the Olympics this coming August. He is now under rehabilitation in preparation for His fight with his home country against United States where the NBA is.
“He said his foot was better and that he had started training again and that he thinks he should have no problem competing in the Olympics,” Liu said Wednesday through an interpreter.
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Posted in Racism at 6:39 pm by william_lee_intern
DJ Torain or DJ Star of Power 105.1 has inhumanly assaulted DJ Envy’’s daughter and he also made racial and sexual disgrace to his wife.
Liu heard about what happened and called him a “racist pedophile” and told his employer to discharge him from the company.
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Posted in World News at 6:36 pm by william_lee_intern
Victims of the recent earthquake in Sichuan province, China are receiving more and more donations and money for their needs. Lansing Chinese-American Association had prayers and rallies in order to raise funds for the victim.
All of it the funds and other things that the association are getting from their prayers and rallies will be going to the victims of the quake.
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Posted in Editorial at 2:16 pm by william_lee_intern
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WHAT: Pacific Islander Student Leadership Conference
WHEN: Saturday, May 31
9 a.m. to 6 p.m.
WHERE: Cal State Long Beach
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The main objective of the conference is to encourage and support Asian and Pacific Islander students to go to college and give them some information about admissions and health information as well.
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Posted in World News at 2:15 pm by william_lee_intern
According to news reports, Bruce Lee’s former house in Hong Kong will be sold to raise funds to help the victims of the earthquake in China.
Is a two-storey house at Kowloon Tong where Bruce Lee spent his last years before his mysterious death in 1973. The house will be arranged for selling by an 86 year old philanthropist named Yu.
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Posted in Chinatown at 2:13 pm by william_lee_intern
A Chinese restaurant located in Hickory Ridge road Columbia, called China Chefs is serving great food at a low cost price of $25 or less.
This was opened 1989 and it is at the back of a hospital. The restaurant is not up to the competition, but they make their business stand out by giving their customers a different kind of impression that they can find here. China Chef is claiming to be different with other restaurant, because of their unique price and idea of a hard-to-find jewel.
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05.29.08
Posted in Blog at 11:36 pm by Shirley Nah
Forget interracial dating. How about inter-Asian dating–dating across different cultural lines?
Inter-Asian dating is something that reveals stigmas even more severe than that of interracial dating. For our parents’ generation, inter-Asian dating might pose problems dealing with the politics of culture, e.g., instilled hatred for the Japanese in Chinese and Korean cultures. However, in our generation, it might pose something even more troubling: the idea of an Asian hierarchy.
It is well known that the Asian community is divided amongst cultures. When my Asian friends sit and talk about our different backgrounds, the conversation inevitably becomes a “one-up” argument. We are constantly trying to one-up each other with a lot of “Well in my culture…” thrown around. Because of this, certain Asian types are labeled as superior while others are labeled as inferior.
Like myself, you probably acknowledge that the idea of the Asian hierarchy exists within the Asian community, but think yourself immune to such biases. You think: I have many Asian friends who are Chinese, Korean, Japanese, Vietnamese, Thai, etc., and I love them very much and don’t make broad sweeping judgments about them based on their culture.
However despite my love for my friends, I have found that I sometimes subtract them out of their culture; I don’t consider them a typical example and see them as an exception. Thus, I have found that I do still judge other Asian cultures–even placing them beneath me.
It is very wrong, very, very, very wrong. Why I choose to write about this topic is that it affects whom I choose to date. I have even heard some of my friends say that the last thing they want to do is date a Chinese, or a Viet, a Korean, etc., the preference belongs to the individual.
How can this be counteracted? Very few people who are affected and aware of these cultural differences actually truly believe the prejudices of it, but the problem is a community issue and there are those who do honestly believe in the superiority of their culture. How then, can the Asian community attempt to unify groups that see themselves outside and above the Asian community?
I must play devil’s advocate for a moment as well. Perhaps the reason that I am concerned with inter-Asian dating is because I allow the cultural differences to affect me. I know many, many happy couples who are of different Asian backgrounds. These individuals truly disregard–don’t even think about–a hierarchy in culture. Thus, is my own issue with this subject a reflection of the prejudices that I so wrongly believe? However, I cannot possibly be the only individual who deals with this problem. How can we then overcome this false categorizing of cultures and look outside of it? This question has implications outside the dating realm, and is the key to uniting the Asian community. I wonder what the answer will be, and if such a problem can ever be solved.
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Posted in Media and Entertainment at 6:00 pm by william_lee_intern
Director Arthur Dong who made “Licensed to Kill” has come up with a new film entitled “Hollywood Chinese.”
It’s a story of Chinese people entering Hollywood, their real life experiences and thought on the involvedness they had in dealing with it.
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Posted in Education at 5:59 pm by william_lee_intern
The Asian American Journalists Association has selected students who will compete for the J. Camp for journalism skills and academic achievement.
J. Camp will be on July 18-23, 2008 at Loyola University Chicago. “J Camp gives students the confidence to make a difference with a future career in journalism,” said Douglas W. Nelson, president and CEO of the Annie E. Casey Foundation.
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